A guest post by Carly (@just_another_miscarriage) Sex is everywhere. It’s the go-to storyline in TV dramas, it keeps a whole film industry ticking over, has a genre of books dedicated to it (erotic fiction anyone?), and is tightly woven into the song lyrics we hear on the radio. We’re aware of sex, to a lesser […]
Category: Mental health
Defence against the dark arts
The clocks have rolled back and they seem to have taken the easy optimism I’ve felt all summer with them. The middle chunk of this year has flown for me – one minute we were heading off on a spring holiday, the next it was baby loss awareness week again. But now the nights are […]
Mum’s Voice series: When you’re still in the thick of it
A guest post by Cassie (@sayingthemword) Two years ago, our story started with our first miscarriage. It was a complete shock, just like it is for everyone. We found ourselves navigating our way over completely unknown ground, but very much with an attitude of ‘it’s just bad luck’ and ‘next time everything will be fine’. […]
A question without an answer
Have you ever had one of those mind-bending conversations, the kind you can only really have with a small child? ‘Why are there clouds in the sky?’ Small child asks. ‘Well…’ You rack your tired brain, dusting down factoids filed away under Year 8 Geography, before mumbling something about rain and water droplet evaporation. Small […]
Mum’s Voice series: A rainbow – and the clouds that linger
A guest post by Zoe (@motherof__pearl). In the darkness of night, I wake, sweating, my heart hammering. The room is silent. I try to place myself for a second, but my body is already in motion, leaning over, turning on the lamp, peering at his chest before my mind has caught up, watching for that […]
Mum’s Voice series: Miscarriage when you’re single
A guest post by Tash. I was 33 when I decided to pursue motherhood alone. I’m pretty much a ‘glass half full’ kinda gal, but after years of bland blind dates and demoralising Tinder swipes even I had to be realistic and accept that maybe not everyone finds their soul mate. I quickly realised […]
Mum’s Voice series: ‘I felt guilty for grieving’
A guest post by Kirsty. I am, what I believed to be, a lucky person. Great upbringing. Own my own house. Happily married to my childhood sweetheart. And the proud mother of two wonderful daughters, aged 5 and 3. For as long as I can remember, I had always imagined myself having three children, and […]
Mum’s Voice series: I’d rather be buying maternity wear
As it’s Baby Loss Awareness Week, I’m going to be sharing a new guest post each day. Here is the first, by Hannah, about the significance of certain items of clothing after miscarriage… Ordinary things, like the clothes in our wardrobes can trigger so many memories. We’ve been taught that what we wear is important. You […]
Sharp objects
It’s back to school season, and that means running the daily social media assault course of first-day-of-school pictures (I can’t be alone in thinking of it in these combative terms, can I?). A week-long parade of other people’s babies – and they do often look like mere babies, play-acting in their Big School uniforms – […]