A single, empty coffee cup sits on a cafe table, behind it there is a pram at another table.

The Group

Now that the schools have gone back, the café feels like neutral territory again. She reclaims her usual spot in the corner, takes out her book, waits for her coffee. In the holidays, it gets too loud for her here; the presence of everyone else’s children oppresses, the noise and sudden movements of so many […]

Guest monologue: ‘Any news?’ Miscarriage as a Muslim woman

A guest post by @Project_Babyu ‘Is it good news?’ My mother-in-law’s friend is smiling at me – and at my still swollen stomach. This is a common question in my community. From the moment a girl gets married, the next thing people will ask is whether a baby is on the way. Straightaway: ‘Any news?’ […]

Guest monologue: How it feels to have miscarriages after an abortion

A guest post by Kathryn Mann (@kathrynmannartist) My first miscarriage happened in a festival Portaloo. There’s no perfect place to lose your hopes, dreams and a significant amount of blood, but this was perhaps the least appropriately stocked, and most inconveniently located. Thankfully I had a couple of hankie packs in my pocket, so I […]

Guest monologue: Every pregnancy is different…so is every pregnancy loss

Last week, I launched a new guest blog series (you can catch up here, if you missed it) sharing different perspectives on miscarriage and pregnancy loss. All kinds of loss and all kinds of voices. Here, Hayley, who writes the blog Life. Love. Loss, shares her story…. I can remember reading, in some pregnancy booklet […]

Am I a mother?

Nowhere is the dividing line more sharply drawn between women than between mothers and non-mothers. It transcends almost everything. Class. Race. Sexuality. Wherever you’re coming from, so the conventional wisdom has it, there’s a unifier there. A shared conversation. You’re a mum, so you understand. Just wait until you have children, then you’ll get it.  It […]